When I started PLANK, I mentioned that there might be some random musings … well today is one of those days.
I was thinking the other day, as I was learning my script for Days of Our Lives, that it’s very interesting how you can take any sentence or phrase and say it at least 10 different ways … all with different subtext. As an actor, this is always interesting to explore, and there are even acting exercises dedicated to this very thing.
This plays out in our everyday lives, too, in how we interact with people. As actors, we consider our character’s motivation and make conscious choices about how we deliver lines. But in life we often let emotion alone drive delivery … and sometimes our intention is lost in the mix. Our communications can so easily be misunderstood, especially in today’s world where texting and emailing sometimes replace actual face-to-face conversations.
When people can’t see your face or hear your tone and inflection, it becomes easy to assume meanings that were never intended. Add to that the fact that people will say things in print that they would NEVER say to someone’s face and it’s easy to see how, in a world of increased communications tools, actual communication is maybe more difficult than ever. It really is crazy that this has become the norm.
Don’t get me wrong, I like texting for some things … like sending a quick heart or bitmoji to my kids to let them know I am thinking of them. But, while the convenience of these electronic forms of communication is great, nothing beats a real call or visit.
This is most important for me in my role as a parent. I’ve always tried to be a good attentive parent, and I’m committed to doing that until the day I die. So many people seem to peter out in this area … NOT ME. I believe it is my endless responsibility to be the one to reach out. My children are grown and busy navigating their own lives, but I don’t hesitate to check in, tell them how much I love them and ask about their lives. I pay attention to their responses and when we do have an actual conversation, I make it a point to REALLY LISTEN to them. Life can be crazy and it’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind of work or whatever is going on at the moment, but none of that is as important as them.