Anyone who knows me knows I like to entertain. I love to go the extra mile – decorate, make homemade everything, etc. But frankly, it’s a big deal, it does take time and it’s not for everyone.
After my return from New York, where I spent Thanksgiving, I caught up with several of my friends and family; and many of them had the same comments. “It’s just too much work,” or “I didn’t enjoy it because I had to work so hard.” There’s going to the market one day, a whole day of cooking another day, and then cleanup. Then you’re pooped and have to get right back to work. It’s easy to understand why so many want to say forget it.
But, we have to stop, strip it down and ask ourselves, “what is it really all about?” I, for one, think the answer is togetherness. For me, I love it all … and the more, the merrier. But that is not for everyone.
I remember one time, my grandma, Mama Fox (who I adored), was over for dinner and the doorbell rang. She said “don’t answer it.” In other words, don’t let anyone join in. I personally feel like get togethers enhance my life, but for Mama Fox … not so much.
With the holidays, I believe we can do as much, or as little, as we like. If it’s freaking pizzas and salad delivered, so be it. The point of the whole thing is love and connection, not drudgery and resentment.
On PLANK, I share the things I like to do … and maybe all you get from it is to put that slice of pizza on a nice plate, fresh flowers in a vase, candles burning and sharing a bottle of wine. That works! Seriously … even I do it sometimes. One year I bought my whole Thanksgiving meal from Trader Joe’s – and it was pretty darn good (especially their pumpkin pie)! Take what you want and leave the rest, no guilt!
Share good times with family and friends, but let yourself off the hook! I would take a less stressed-out, happy host any day. So this year, maybe you let go, reevaluate what’s important, change things up and REALLY enjoy yourself!!!!