This weekend is the Daytime Emmy’s and the show I am on, Days of Our Lives, is celebrating 50 years – a truly amazing feat! But as always, accepting the invitation to attend comes the silent thought, “OMG, what will I wear?
This year, the publicity department got some designers to loan the cast dresses for the evening, but they are all sample sizes 0-4. Well I am NOT any of those. And, watching the many slim girls on the show pick out their dresses, reconfirmed what I already knew. Those type dresses – the tight, body hugging variety with NO SLEEVES, etc. – are just not me. I have too many curves (lumps and bumps) for those!
And I think there’s a big problem when you look for pretty dresses and NOTHING has sleeves. (I want to start a company that has women’s clothes with sleeves but I’ll save that for another blog post.)
When my daughter, Katie, was little and in ballet, she told me she couldn’t do it anymore because she just couldn’t hold her stomach in that long. She could have probably told me anything else and I would have made her stick it out, but that was something I absolutely understood. She didn’t become a ballerina, but she was lucky enough to get her dad’s family’s body type, with a flat tummy (something I have never, ever had!). Even when I was in grade school and all the girls were wearing “hip huggers,”my potbelly would hang over.
I don’t have a “Hollywood body,” and quite frankly I was born in the wrong era – I would have done better in Renaissance times, when curves were in! So, as I face the “what to wear dilemma,” I suppose the answer is to embrace what I do have and, as my friend, stylist Cynthia Carr Gardner, says “accentuate the positives!” All of us need to find looks that make us feel pulled together and beautiful … whatever that means to you. Popular trends can inspire us, but it’s important to find our own style.
When I was younger, I could just go with it, but even then I was a size 6, not a 0. As you can see, my personal style has evolved over the years, and today, I generally lean toward a little funky. I like more of a Diane Keaton vibe – male suiting meets feminine whimsy.
Anyway, this year’s choices for me include a pretty cocktail-type dress (not evening gown) that I found in my size 8. The only issue is can I wrangle a wrap to cover up my “chub” arms (BTW, you have to check out Amy Schumer on Ellen … so funny). My second option is to go with a skirt/tux look. The jury is still out.
I’ve still got a few days to decide, and I’ll be sure to Instagram the final outcome this weekend. One thing I know for sure – I will feel comfortable and confident! All those gals with their glamour gowns will look fabulous, but it’s just not me … and that’s ok!